When a new sibling is on the way, its a huge adjustment for everyone! We can sometimes have unreasonable expectations with regards to how adaptable are children are. Change can be scary! They can start seeing early on that the focus is not longer 100% on them when a new brother and/or sister is soon to arrive. Its normal for them to start acting out, pushing boundaries, especially when it comes to sleep. Here are a few things you can do to get back in track.
Don’t let them feel like they can’t manage the situation.
We tell our kids what to do… A LOT. We pretty much boss them around all day. As they get older, they need to feel somewhat “in control” of the situation. When it comes to bedtime, make a bedtime routine chart. Let them decorate it and then every night, allow for them to check off each step as you go. Allow for them to tell you what is next (even though you know 🙂 ) Aloow for them to “feel in control” without pushing boundaries.
Consistency and routine are key!
Children thrive off routine. They feel safe and secure when there aren’t many surprises and they know what is coming next. Keeping routine and staying consistent is best, especially when a big change is on the way.
Spend time together!
Make sure to spend one on one time together where your focus is just on them. Let your toddler pick the activity. You can make something for the new baby, write a story or just do something where the focus is just on the two of you! Most important is the time you’re spending alone together.